Did you start your year off with massive conflict, stress, worries, anxiety? If you are a millennial, you will agree that we have never seen such a time like this. Surprisingly, the world has been through far worse times, and I will say you were born at the right time, century, generation.

One lesson that stood out for me this January is that I shouldn't fix issues but address them.

Knowing my purpose has made me calm and collected. I am patient to listen and consider people’s feelings rather than my selfish desires to be right. 

Depending on the situation, you can choose to go with the flow and control how you roll.

Conflict is a portal we can use to evolve, if we choose to.

People know when they get you upset. How you handle your emotions, and the situation gives you an added advantage in turning the problem in your favour.

Use conflict to teach people how to treat you. Here is your chance to educate people on the best way to talk to you and approach you.

I have had occasions where someone was expecting me to explode and my calm nature made them feel a lot worse than if I had granted their explosive wish. Since then, the individual had to change their approach towards me.

When you are going through conflict, ask yourself. 

1. What are my values? If you value discipline, communication, hard work, you should exhibit your values in how you respond to the conflict.

   Check out this article Get More Out of 2021: Merge Your Values With Your Goals

2. What is my purpose? Depending on your purpose in life, you will agree with me that it is to enhance your environment and those living around you. Your purpose isn't a selfish mandate.

3. What end goal do I want in this situation? Peace or war? 

Your answers will determine how you want to go about it. 

Wrap up

Indeed like every other thing, practice makes perfect. You can cook up a simulated occasion in your mind and practice it. You don't need to wait for conflict to emerge before you practice. 

When this becomes part of your subconscious, you become aware of this practice, which compasses your decisions, making you work from a confident/peaceful standpoint. 

Later in the month, I will talk about "Workplace Conflict: Using your Purpose as a Resolution Tool." Keep an eye on that.

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