Every time we hear that men aren't active listeners but how true is that? In this video, I explored if being vulnerable is good enough and some of the things a man should expect if he is vulnerable.

I also talked about the one thing women do that pushes men away and how to fix it.

Undoubtedly, everyone needs a father and mother to teach them the ways of life. A father and a mother possess different worldviews and experiences that can help shape a child into a world wonder or none other. 

I keep hearing of a cheap excuse from some toxic men saying that they are such a disappointment to themselves because they didn't have a father. 

I also hear some single moms place this reason in the front yard of their lives, claiming victim and never accepting that they had all it takes to raise a responsible man who would make a difference in society. 

Every time I see a single mother, the first thing that comes to my mind is that "she is the mother of many nations." Her son will rise to wipe off her tears, heal her sorrows and build a home she'd be proud of. 

What makes a man abuse a woman?

The answer is simple "Power." 

The measure of a man is what he does with power - Plato. 

Men are naturally stronger than women physically. If the man has an economic advantage, he is likely also to exhibit power over the finances of his home or relationship. 

What you do with your power as a man is what differentiates between abuse and empowerment.

Religiously speaking, from a Christian lens, we believe that the man is the head. We are quick to quote Ephesians 5: 22, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife..." 

When I was in Nigeria, as an African man, if a girl smiled at me, I would take that as an invitation to a conversation; when she looked straight into my eyes, that was more than an invitation. 

I don't think I am weird to feel this way because, as Nigerians, we aren't taught how to look at people in the eyes unless we have that awestruck butterflies for that person.